Building Self Confidence in Children

It's no secret that many parents struggle with building self confidence in their children. We all know that a parent’s job is to nurture their children and raise them to be secure, well adjusted adults. Ok, but how do you do that? My mother used to say, “I didn’t get a training manual for raising kids!” Ouch, can you hear her frustration? I’m sure a lot parents can identify.

There are so many things that you have to figure out when it comes to raising children that you may wonder what and how you should prioritize. Did you know that fostering your child’s self esteem would be at the top of the list? It truly requires your earnest attention, and here’s why?

• Low self esteem can have a long reaching influence on your child’s social life and mental health
• A negative self-image can lead to unhealthy relationships and poor communication skills as an adult
• A lack of self confidence affects a child’s ability to feel and become successful in their adult life
• Child with low self-worth usually act out, have behavioral issues, and perform poorly in school
• Lack of confidence diminishes a child’s ability to deal with challenges and solve problems, which they usually continues into their adulthood

The list goes on, but the good news is that you can learn how to raise happy, healthy, self confident kids. As a parent, I’m sure you want your kids to grow up to like and respect themselves. You’ll do everything in your power to help them improve their self-image, and avoid the long term consequences that low self-esteem can have on them in their adulthood, and I right? Here’s a quote from an article published by the Texas Children’s Hospital’s Learning Support Center. Dr. Liza Bonin, the hospital’s clinical psychologist had this to say about why building self confidence in children is so important:

“Strong self-confidence gives a child the internal resilience and resources to cope and adapt in the world…It promotes a child’s ability to handle everything from dealing with a school-yard bully to not getting their way at playtime to refusing illegal drugs.”

Dr. Bonin also suggested saying the following to your children regularly to help them become more self assured:

1. I’m proud of you.
2. You really worked hard. (Be specific)
3. We all make mistakes.
4. That’s all right.
5. Thanks for helping.
6. I think you can be trusted to handle this!
7. Super work!
8. You’re right.
9. I love you.
10. Great try.
11. How thoughtful.
12. You figured that out.
13. I have faith in you.
14. You brighten my day!
15. I just like hanging out with you.
16. Outstanding!
17. Thanks for being honest.

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